hmmm.. benar la jika Allah S.W.T itu menggerakkan hati kita utk melakukkan sesuatu atau pergi ke mana-mana.. mungkin ada sesuatu yg ingin Dia tunjukkan.. itulah yg berlaku pada ako.. kih.. mungkin Allah S.W.T telah memakbulkan doa ako.. mohon diberi petunjuk dan kebenaran.. akhirnya sesuatu yg telah lama ako hajati, ako rasakan, ako harapkan berlaku dgn izin dariNya.. siapa sangka dlm byk2 tempat Allah menggerakkan hati ako utk ke sana.. dan siapa sangka hati ako digerakkan utk berhenti ditempat yg sebelum ini ako jarang singgah.. berapa banyak kereta kat malaysia ni, akhirnya kereta itu yg ako lihat.. dan seramai-ramai insan di muka bumi ini, ditakdirkan ako bertemu dgnnya... segalanya terbentang didepan mata... ako akui sedikit sebanyak mmg mengguris hati (tambahan pula teringat ajakan ako yg ditolak dgn alasan baru beberapa hari berjumpa..tak elok..bla..bla.. rupa-rupanya dah ada janji...).. tapi ako cuba tabahkan hati.. ako cuba memikirkan hikmah disebalik yg terjadi... iyer.. mungkin ini petunjuk dr Allah S.W.T supaya ako menerima apa yg didatangkan olehNya kepadaku dgn hati yg terbuka, ikhlas dan rela.. walaupun tak sehebat apa yg pernah dipinjamkan olehNya pada ako, tapi cukuplah... cukup kerana apa yg didatangkan pada ako ini mungkin yg terbaik dariNya.. cuma sebelum ini hati dan mata ako masih dikaburi sesuatu yg sememangnya berkilau tetapi kilauan itu telah membutakan hati ako dan melukakan hatiku...
Akhirnya doa ako supaya ditunjukkan yg mana perlu ako simpan dlm hati dan yg mana satu yg perlu ako setia telah Allah S.W.T tunjukkan.. akhirnya terbukti yg sememangnya ako perlu teruskan hidup dgn gembira dan tak perlu memikirkan atau rase bersalah pada seseorg jika ako cuba menerima sesuatu yg baru dlm hidup ako... terbukti dia sememangnya lebih gembira tanpa ako di sisi.. dan demi Allah dr kejauhan dan dlm rintik-rintik hujan ako doakan kebahagiaannya... cukuplah.. akhirnya ako pasti yg dia akan menemui bahagia dan dgn itu walaupun pedih ako akan tinggalkan segalanya dan berharap agar bahagia itu sentiasa menjadi miliknya.. insyaAllah.. selama ini instinct ako ttg dia blom ada lagi yg tersasar... walaupun cuba dinafikan akhirnya apa yg ako rasa sememangnya betul.. kih.. ajaibkan? mungkin benar kate org kalau kite benar2 cinta apa yg kite rasa mungkin itulah yg sebenarnya.. mmm.. apa2 pun... ako dpt menerima walaupun ako akui ada rase sedih dan kecewa... tapi inilah hakikatnya tak semua yg kite inginkan akan jadi kenyataan... hidup kite penuh dgn dugaan tapi ako yakin bile hikmah disebalik dugaan itu dpt kite lihat pasti kite merasa manisnya.. dan ako tak sabar nak merasakan kemanisan itu...
p/s: buat seseorang yg tahu siapa dirinya itu, tak perlu awak pikirkan sebarang alasan.. cukup2la diri ini didustai cubalah berterus-terang dan berkata benar dgn diri ni.. kerana sepandai-pandai kau bermain kata akhirnya ako akan ketahui kebenarnya jua.................. semoga bahagia dan ako tahu kau sedang bahagia.. dan ako masih lagi mencari kebahagiaan itu dan semoga bahagia akan menjadi milikku yg abadi buat kali ini........
Saturday, January 29, 2005
Thursday, January 13, 2005
Selamat Tahun Baru 2005
Well.. hai.. selamat tahun baru.. rasenye blom terlambat utk ako wish happy new year kan... rasenya dah lama ako tak update blog ako nih.. kih... bukannya apa.. ako sambut tahun baru dgn demam and chicken pox atau ada org panggil cecair... thn baru ako sememangnya dimulakan dgn sesuatu yg baru dlm hidup ako... yelah ako mmg tak pernah kena cecair ni... kih.. so something new la kan... wakaka... well, ada org tanye ako.. apa azam tahun baru ako.. actually dah lama bebenor ako takde azam thn baru... but this year ako ada azam thn baru... azam ako.. nak tinggalkan segala kesedihan tahun lepas and buka lembaran baru dlm hidup ako.. ako nak hidup bahagia di samping keluarga and sahabat2 ako yg byk bagi dorongan dan semangat pada ako... well... dah nak akhir thn 2004 ni byk bende jadi pada ako.. and membuatkan ako terpikir... well.. ada benda yg akan datang dan pergi dari hidup kita.. and perkara ni terjadi dlm hidup ako... bak kate pakcik ako... walau sebaik mana pun kite dgn seseorg, tapi kalau dia tidak ditakdirkan utk kita.. maka takkan jadik la jugak.. and mungkin ako tidak dijadikan dr tulang rusuk bekas tunangku..sebagaimana hawa dijadikan dpd tulang rusuk Adam.. kih..maybe korang rase kelakar tapi dalami maksudnya....
so.. sepanjang thn 2004 byk peristiwa suka dan duka yg berlaku pada hidup ako... boleh dikatakan di awal thn 2004, byk kebahagiaan yg ako perolehi and maybe disebabkan itu, ako jadik lalai.. terlalu yakin yg kebahagiaan yg ako perolehi itu akan kekal selamanya.. tapi ako lupa maybe kebahagiaan itu hanya Allah pinjamkan buat seketika utk ako.. and di pertengahan dan akhir thn 2004, boleh dikatakan ako menghadapi dugaan yg berat dlm kehidupan peribadi and kerjaya ako...dan sekarang ako rase ako boleh nampak sedikit hikmah disebalik segala dugaan yg Allah berikan pada ako... ako tidak lagi lalai... ako sedar yg rakan2 ako sebenarnya mengambil berat tentang diri ako.. sahabat yg ako sangka telah melupakan ako, turn out to be the most supportive friends to me... gosh.. ako betul2 terharu.. and bersyukur ... and of course keluarga tercinta sentiasa di sisi ako di saat-saat ako melalui detik yg perit dlm hidup ako... selama ni ako akui, ako tak sedar ttg itu... and ako lalai... tapi kepedihan yg ako lalui.. byk menyedarkan ako.. betapa byk bende dan insan yg ako pinggirkan demi mengejar sebuah kebahagiaan... and akhirnya insan yg ako pinggirkan itu yg sentiasa setia memberi semangat pada ako utk bangkit kembali... alhamdulillah.. ako sedar Allah sayangkan ako.. oleh sebab itu Dia memberi ako kesedaran sebelum terlewat.. ako benar2 bersyukur....
dihujung 2004... sinar bahagia yg ako sangka telah terpadam dlm hidup ako, kembali menjadi terang sedikit demi sedikit... well.. ako sangka perkahwinan sahabat2 baik ako yg berturut-turut setiap minggu di bulan december lepas merupakan saat2 yg paling getir yg akan ako lalui.. tapi alhamdulillah, ianya menjadi saat2 yg menyedarkan ako apa erti sebuah persahabatan... ya Allah.. sesungguhnya ako bersyukur... ako dpt melalui saat2 itu dgn tenang dan cahaya kebahagiaan itu dikembalikan kepada ako... and ako harap cahaya itu akan terus menerangi hidup ako sehingga ke akhir hayat ako.. terima kasih yg tak terhingga ako ucapkan kepada kamu semua sahabat ku.. tanpa korang ako tak mampu bangkit kembali.. love u all.. muahhhhhhhhssssssss...
and 05/01/2004 yg lalu.. ako kehilangan datuk tersayang yg kembali ke rahmatullah... kami sekeluarga redha dgn pemergiannya... dah lama arwah datuk ako menanggung sakit.. jadi biarlah arwah pergi menemui Pencipta kita semua.. semoga roh arwah datuk ku ditempatkan dikalangan org2 yg beriman dan soleh.. amin...
mmm.. kalo korang nak tahu... hajat ako utk bercuti panjang akhirnya tercapai.. kih.. kena cecair ni 2 minggu ako cuti.. tapi tula.. tak lepas nak ke mana-mana.. wakaka.. kena kuarantin...takpe.. janji ako dpt relax... since lepas raya tu ako tak sempat nak relax serelaxnya.. so.. kali ni ako tak lepaskan peluang...org dah kasik cuti.. apalagas cuti sakan la....kih...well... apa lagik eek.. itu je la kot.. harapan ako agar 2005 ni dan tahun2 seterusnya akan memberi seribu satu kebahagiaan utk ako dan family ako serta seluruh umat Islam... amin...
kepada Ida & Shafie, Hisham & Ayu, Ita & KTM, Along & Hazrin, semoga perkahwinan korang kekal bahagia hingga ke akhir hayat....
kepada sahabat2 ako yg banyak memberi nasihat dan sokongan kepada ako.. terima kasih ako ucapkan.. tanpa korang ako takkan mampu berdiri semula... terima kasih yg tak terhingga... muahhhhhhsssssss....
marilah kita sama2 sedekahkan AL-Fatihah kepada arwah datuk ako : Harun bin Salleh dan juga mangsa2 tsunami... Al-Fatihah..........
so.. sepanjang thn 2004 byk peristiwa suka dan duka yg berlaku pada hidup ako... boleh dikatakan di awal thn 2004, byk kebahagiaan yg ako perolehi and maybe disebabkan itu, ako jadik lalai.. terlalu yakin yg kebahagiaan yg ako perolehi itu akan kekal selamanya.. tapi ako lupa maybe kebahagiaan itu hanya Allah pinjamkan buat seketika utk ako.. and di pertengahan dan akhir thn 2004, boleh dikatakan ako menghadapi dugaan yg berat dlm kehidupan peribadi and kerjaya ako...dan sekarang ako rase ako boleh nampak sedikit hikmah disebalik segala dugaan yg Allah berikan pada ako... ako tidak lagi lalai... ako sedar yg rakan2 ako sebenarnya mengambil berat tentang diri ako.. sahabat yg ako sangka telah melupakan ako, turn out to be the most supportive friends to me... gosh.. ako betul2 terharu.. and bersyukur ... and of course keluarga tercinta sentiasa di sisi ako di saat-saat ako melalui detik yg perit dlm hidup ako... selama ni ako akui, ako tak sedar ttg itu... and ako lalai... tapi kepedihan yg ako lalui.. byk menyedarkan ako.. betapa byk bende dan insan yg ako pinggirkan demi mengejar sebuah kebahagiaan... and akhirnya insan yg ako pinggirkan itu yg sentiasa setia memberi semangat pada ako utk bangkit kembali... alhamdulillah.. ako sedar Allah sayangkan ako.. oleh sebab itu Dia memberi ako kesedaran sebelum terlewat.. ako benar2 bersyukur....
dihujung 2004... sinar bahagia yg ako sangka telah terpadam dlm hidup ako, kembali menjadi terang sedikit demi sedikit... well.. ako sangka perkahwinan sahabat2 baik ako yg berturut-turut setiap minggu di bulan december lepas merupakan saat2 yg paling getir yg akan ako lalui.. tapi alhamdulillah, ianya menjadi saat2 yg menyedarkan ako apa erti sebuah persahabatan... ya Allah.. sesungguhnya ako bersyukur... ako dpt melalui saat2 itu dgn tenang dan cahaya kebahagiaan itu dikembalikan kepada ako... and ako harap cahaya itu akan terus menerangi hidup ako sehingga ke akhir hayat ako.. terima kasih yg tak terhingga ako ucapkan kepada kamu semua sahabat ku.. tanpa korang ako tak mampu bangkit kembali.. love u all.. muahhhhhhhhssssssss...
and 05/01/2004 yg lalu.. ako kehilangan datuk tersayang yg kembali ke rahmatullah... kami sekeluarga redha dgn pemergiannya... dah lama arwah datuk ako menanggung sakit.. jadi biarlah arwah pergi menemui Pencipta kita semua.. semoga roh arwah datuk ku ditempatkan dikalangan org2 yg beriman dan soleh.. amin...
mmm.. kalo korang nak tahu... hajat ako utk bercuti panjang akhirnya tercapai.. kih.. kena cecair ni 2 minggu ako cuti.. tapi tula.. tak lepas nak ke mana-mana.. wakaka.. kena kuarantin...takpe.. janji ako dpt relax... since lepas raya tu ako tak sempat nak relax serelaxnya.. so.. kali ni ako tak lepaskan peluang...org dah kasik cuti.. apalagas cuti sakan la....kih...well... apa lagik eek.. itu je la kot.. harapan ako agar 2005 ni dan tahun2 seterusnya akan memberi seribu satu kebahagiaan utk ako dan family ako serta seluruh umat Islam... amin...
kepada Ida & Shafie, Hisham & Ayu, Ita & KTM, Along & Hazrin, semoga perkahwinan korang kekal bahagia hingga ke akhir hayat....
kepada sahabat2 ako yg banyak memberi nasihat dan sokongan kepada ako.. terima kasih ako ucapkan.. tanpa korang ako takkan mampu berdiri semula... terima kasih yg tak terhingga... muahhhhhhsssssss....
marilah kita sama2 sedekahkan AL-Fatihah kepada arwah datuk ako : Harun bin Salleh dan juga mangsa2 tsunami... Al-Fatihah..........
5 GOLDEN RULES FOR FINDING YOUR LIFE PARTNER
A relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake.Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love."
I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come.
Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on Love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION 1: * Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line-and marry someone who Wants the same thing.
QUESTION 2:
* Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION 3:
* Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test?
Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing."
So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth, and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION 4:
* How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc. How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you--who can't do nearly as much for them!
You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION 5:
* Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married.
As a colleague of Mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!"
If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework
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If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love."
I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come.
Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on Love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION 1: * Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line-and marry someone who Wants the same thing.
QUESTION 2:
* Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION 3:
* Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test?
Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing."
So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth, and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION 4:
* How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc. How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you--who can't do nearly as much for them!
You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION 5:
* Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married.
As a colleague of Mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!"
If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework
copy and paste from http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sttj9596/
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